Personal needs






Pen, paper, computer/mac.



Introduction: "On the physiological level, needs trigger actions that are necessary for the human being to function optimally. These are basic needs such as food, sleep, warmth, love, and safety.

Needs can also be psychological. Also, additional needs, which are the result of environmental factors, are important. Since the American psychologist Abraham Maslow developed his theory of the human needs pyramid in 1943, many researchers have provided new contributions. Motivation researchers Edward Deci and Richard Ryan argue that needs such as autonomy, competence and relationships are basic needs across cultures. Other findings indicate that needs is not a / or phenomenon - people have a need profile as part of their personality. The consequence is that you have some personal needs that are important for you to be satisfied /optimal and to drive you forward. Leadership-developers Binney, Wilke and Williams found that the leaders they interviewed were often driven by the need to prove, gain acceptance, fear of rejection, high demands on themselves and others, were self-critical and they were followers of taking risks and living out excitement. To lead others, they had to understand what drives them and how needs affect their behavior. Understanding their needs profile is important both to lead others and to lead themselves."(Karp, Tom. Til Meg Selv, 2016.)

Intention: The intention of this exercise is to become aware of your personal needs and how they affect you. We do this to deeply understand what drives us and shapes our behavior. Self-leadership involves the ability to influence yourself, and understanding your own needs might help you with this. Our needs may also vary and change continuously, so it could be useful to think through and reflect on your needs every now and then.



(20min) Think through the way your strong and clear needs drive your behavior. Write down the three to five most important ones. Reflect on how they affect your actions, behavior, thoughts and feelings, as well as how they make you seek out certain situations in your life. (This can be contextual, something you are unconscious of, and might vary, so a tip would be to look for patterns or tendency.) Here are some examples of different needs:(Use the list if needed) Acceptance. Recognition. Autonomy. Independence. To prove something. Training. Freedom. Love. Control. Knowledge. Power. Self-mastery. Personal growth. Structure. Self-realization. Social status. Action. Belonging. Safety. Well-functioning social relations. Lust for knowledge. To perform. To influence others.


(30min) Pair up with your buddy. You now have 15 minutes each to help each other find ways to meet your central needs in everyday life. Focus on active listening and asking questions that might help each other find new ways of looking at it or new solutions.


(10min) Return to your group and use the rest of the time available to share your reflections from this process.

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