Relationship mapping

WHO	Solo+Group
WHERE	Group-room
YOU NEED	Pen, A3 paper, computer.
FACILITATOR	Host

Intention

In this task, we map out our current relationships to gain insight into the state of our relations and the impact these relations have on our lives. This to become more aware of our interpersonal patterns of behavior. This will enable us to create personal strategies for building the relations that better fill our relational needs, as well as make better collaborations possible.

Introduction

Each of us is part of a number of relations. The state of our relations has an impact on us as individuals, and our interpersonal patterns of behavior also greatly impact our work and what we are able to carry out in the world. As humans, we all have relational needs. Though our social needs may vary, a good/lack of a safety-net/support system can have a huge impact on our mental health. An analysis of the current state of our relations can give awareness about our ability to foster healthy relations that meet our relational needs. Dysfunctional patterns of behavior in our personal lives can easily affect both work and other areas. For example, one's ability to trust others might be dysfunctional in both personal relationships and in your role as a leader. Our aim is that by looking deeply at our personal relationships we can both encourage action towards deeper healthier relationships and increase awareness of our own interpersonal behavior. What is a thriving, healthy relation? A big part of this answer is personal, but these relations may be characterized by mutual support, learning, and development, and that tensions and conflicts in the relationship lead to richer outcomes.

How:

1	(20min) On a big sheet of paper, draw a circle in the middle to represent you, and map out all your relevant relationships around you on this map. Be as specific as you want to be. You choose the context which is most relevant for you and the relations you would like to focus on working on. (The map can include family (close and extended), friends, acquaintances, romantic relations, colleagues, bosses, mentors, professional networks, etc. You can group people together, or add them individually) Draw the connections, and express three parameters: -Which relations are strong/weak? (e.g. the more influence the relation has, the thicker the line) -Which relations give/drain energy? (e.g. bright color for thriving relations, and dark on the relations that undermine your wellbeing and energy) -How much time do you spend on each of these relations? (For example, you have 100% time during a week. How many % do you give the different relations of your time?)
2	(20min) Individually: Reflect on your relationship map, Guiding questions: What patterns and tendencies can you see on your map? What insights can you get about your ability to build relationships? What needs to change? What to nurture, let go, where is unfulfilled potential? Based on your interpersonal needs, ambitions, and direction in life, how should you re-prioritize your time/energy in your personal relationships, and which actions are due?
3	(40min) Share your key insights/actions with your group.